Accepting your mortality. When your body changes after children, it’s … From our perspective, 50, 60 and older can look great if you take off your mask and let your face grow into becoming who you are. But coming to terms with the inevitability of death can help teach us to live more fully in the here and now. Stop hiding, take a look and see what's coming. Masks are fake. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life. 4 Tips to Help You Come to Terms with Aging ... Because if you are 40 then it’s not possible you look 20! ... For your beauty to be ambushed, brutalized, and eventually completely destroyed by the aging process. It took a conscious, concerted effort to feel more confident about my looks. When he passed, it was not peaceful because he was in excruciating pain. Masks are brittle. It surely isn't the picture we have of our mothers or grandmothers. It's going to happen. I know because I loss my son in November after a 5 1/2 year battle with StageIV colon cancer. It's a loss of control. If your biggest fear is getting older, the best thing that can happen to you is getting older. Being proactive before you lose your hair may make it less upsetting and improve your self confidence. I think plasticked faces look super odd though and I don't think it helps anyone. Death is an unavoidable part of the cycle of life, yet many of us do everything we can to avoid accepting our mortality. Grieving is a highly individual experience; there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. Or you could get a lot of plastic surgery, and everyone can feel sorry for you, because now you're the woman who got a lot of plastic surgery. Each stage of your journey will be completely different, and as you wander through your grief, emotions will come and go. It’s been nearly 11 years since my father died (I was 18 when it happened), so I think I can safely say I’ve been through it all; the shock, the sadness, the anger, the guilt, and, eventually, the acceptance. It is not only a physical loss but a piece of your heart is missing. He fought a hart battle and I cried for all those years. Other than that if you're wealthy you could go for the surgery option. The people on TV and in magazines aren't perfect in real life -- the images you see are manipulated and you shouldn't judge your own beauty by those standards! And believe me, it’s not just about “looks” on a surface level—the way you feel about your looks is a key signifier of the way you think about yourself. There is a moment, and it happens to all aging women, where you understand that you've lost the race. 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